2015 brought about many unwanted changes in my life, and I often felt “out of control.”
Since I’m a person who takes 100% responsibility my life (a perspective that has served we well since my childhood), this past year has found me being extremely critical with myself, and spending my energy in ways that weren’t necessarily for my highest good.
And it’s OK – we all go through times like this – it’s a part of living the human experience. And since I’m not an enlightened being, it makes sense that I would struggle with this.
Still – I wanted it to be OVER – and I figured what better time than the New Year! I will simply declare the “phase” complete with the coming of 2016, and move back into the patterns and experiences that are familiar – the ones that have been working for years.
So I bounded into 2016 with so much hope, and possibility – only to be smacked in the face with challenges – everything from technical problems to people problems to health challenges.
And I got angry – WHY is this still happening??!! What’s going on??
Thankfully, a friend told me about all these astrological activities that happened in the New Year – and the worst of it ended on Jan. 25th, so it’s now “safe” to pick up those plans again.
But you know what? Even though I do believe some of the astrology stuff makes sense (and I’ll share more about that in upcoming posts), I also see the real reason why my big 2016 plan was never going to work.
I was so intent on capturing something that I once had,
that I forgot how life actually works.
We can never go back. When we look to the past to define our future, we do nothing but limit what’s possible. We don’t take into account that the world of TODAY is not the world of Yesterday – even if something “worked” back then, it’s most probably not going to work today.
We can never go back. When we look to the past to define our future, we do nothing but limit what’s possible.
I can see now it’s about creating something totally new for 2016.
Starting from No-Thing and creating Some-Thing.
What – I don’t know yet. I’m still in that inquiry. But I do know it’s the only way to experience lasting change and true transformation.
I won’t lie to you and say it’s easy, or comfortable. Quite the opposite – I would say I’m experiencing one of the most challenging times in my life. But I know that it’s a pivot point – not an end or a disaster. That I can make what comes out of this place will be extraordinary – the next level of possibility and creation for myself and those I care about.
So I’m excited and scared, but taking action to discover what’s next. And I’ll be doing my very best to share it all with you – in a way that makes a difference for you, and empowers your own transformation and growth.
There are a lot of changes happening in my life right now, and this is a question I'm asking myself a lot:
I think we don't ask that question enough. It's super common for us to put our attention on everyone else - what matters to them and their needs, rather than what matters to YOU!
I'm finding it more and more true that my life, business, and relationships work best when I'm true to myself.
Life, business, and relationships work best when you are true to yourself!
And being true to yourself requires that you know yourself - that you can answer the question -
What matters to me?
Being Love - Loving myself - Loving others exactly as they are and exactly as they are not.
Giving because I desire to give, and for no other reason. Being grateful that I have so much to give!
Supporting others to see their own power - their own gifts - and to experience gratitude for ALL that is!
This is my focus and the context for my life at this moment.
It helps in the midst of so much change and adjustment to remember it's not all about me - even as it is all about what matters to me!
So, what matters to you?
Honestly, exploring this question is the very best thing you can do for yourself and those who love and care about. Not until we are our highest and best selves can we truly be all we desire to be for others.
Take some time to explore, and share it here - I'd love to share in your discoveries!
As I speak to my clients each day, I hear the same thread running through so many of the conversations...
The experience of being ALONE.
Being the only one with that problem or that dilemma.
The only one struggling to make sense of the absolute randomness of life.
I feel it. I sit in my office all alone, and I imagine that I must solve all the problems - alone.
Lately, the randomness of my own life has gotten too big for me to face alone, and I've discovered the antidote to aloneness -
So often, I don't reach out, because I just don't know what to ask for.
And there's only one thing to ever ask for:
Every human wants to give and receive love, and when we ask for it, not only do we receive - but the giver receives too. And in one shining, brilliant moment, aloneness disappears.
Right now - go ASK FOR LOVE! You deserve it.
I LOVE YOU!
Visionary Business Owners & Creative Entrepreneurs almost all have a “Big Vision.”
Usually, it’s a goal that will make a big difference in the world.
Unfortunately, this vision doesn’t often become reality.
I uncovered a piece of this answer in a conversation with a client last week, and I’d like to share it with you now – along with a tool that can assist you in bringing your vision to fruition.
First, why does the Big Vision not become reality?
Because most people THINK from the wrong place! It looks something like this…
Mostly, visionary thinking is focused on THE END – the OUTCOME.
Thinking is this direction has your Place of Thinking and the Place of Action out of alignment.
Fortunately, it’s possible to reverse your thinking process, and put your Thinking and Action in the same place!
Here’s an exercise to do just that! I recommend giving yourself at least 30 minutes to go through the entire process, and you may need more time.
Read over the guidelines before you begin, and then actually go through the steps to experience the shift, and you’ll see how easily you can define actions that will empower the creation of your vision.
Think from Current State to Big Vision, and create it in the fullest state possible
Close your eyes.
Imagine your Vision is real, and in your mind, look in the direction of where it exists.
Imagine traveling forward in this direction.
Travel in time, to the place and time where your vision is REAL.
Immerse yourself in this vision – bring all of your senses to experiencing your vision in reality:
Bring your senses to your environment.
Write all of your perceptions down in the most descriptive terms you can use. Don’t worry about what it looks like or sounds like – this is for you and doesn’t have to be shared with anyone.
Now, staying in this vision, move to Step 2.
Turn around and envision from the end to the beginning
In your vision, imagine yourself turning around, physically, and looking in the direction of the “past” – the direction where you came from as you began to travel toward your vision in Step 1.
Now, ask yourself – What had to happen for your vision to become real?
Most likely, you will quickly visualize significant milestones – big goals that you had to achieve like stepping stones to your vision becoming real.
Write everything down – like a timeline – what happened first, what happened second, etc.
Take your time here.
Allow revelations to come to you, and then begin to look chronologically, from the existence of your Big Vision back in time.
What was the result that occurred right before your vision came into existence in reality?
What was the result that occurred right before that result?
Keep stepping back, and asking, what result occurred immediately prior to THAT result becoming real.
Keep going in this fashion until you are back to TODAY – right now.
Write down each of the results that occur along the pathway.
Create action steps to achieve just the FIRST result beyond today
This near-term result is your first goal! That’s all you should focus on now to bring your Big Vision into reality.
You will see that it is achievable, and that you can now define the specific action steps it will take to accomplish this goal.
Don’t worry about any other results or milestones toward your Big Vision. Once you have achieved this goal, you will simply return to the timeline you visualized and take on the next milestone for action.
And that’s how you can have your Big Vision actually become REAL!
With an intention to build your business and your life from an Inspired place, you hear a lot that it's about "feeling good." And it is - but it’s common to hear that as - Only do those things that bring you joy and happiness.
But that’s not how it works.
In the process of building a business, there are and will always be things we must do that are not the thing that brings us the most joy.
There are always mundane, routine, and sometimes downright challenging tasks required to be successful in this material world.
So what is one to do?
How do you do that?
Well, it’s not about what you’re doing it’s about how you’re doing it. It’s all about the attitude you bring to the activity.
You can choose to bring an attitude of “Ugh, not this again. I hate doing this/being here/etc. Why do I have to do this? This is no fun.” With this attitude, you are guaranteed to experience negative thoughts, negative feelings, and ultimately create a downward spiral that ensures these activities stay challenging, or even un-done.
Fortunately, you have the power to choose to bring an attitude of joy and inspiration to all tasks – even those you typically dread. The fact is, you and you alone are responsible for the attitude and energy through which you choose to approach your work and your life.
Just as a negative attitude brings about negative thoughts and feelings – a positive attitude – an attitude of joy and general positivity will leave you feeling good – even if the task itself is boring or less-than-inspiring.
So how can you actually shift your internal state?
This starts with acknowledging what you are grateful for. At Inspired Income, we have a process called the Gratitude Minute, and it’s about truly feeling gratitude in your body – once you’ve experienced that, you can call up that feeling whenever you need it.
When you start to experience resistance or negative feelings in any situation, you can shift your state of mind by calling up the feelings of gratitude. From this feeling, you can look at your task in a new light, and be empowered.
This process is greatly enhanced by a simple gratitude practice – daily, grab a piece of paper and write down at least 3 things you are grateful for in this moment. I love the idea of a gratitude journal, but I also like to keep things simple – a lot of times I just jot these down on a sticky note. See, it’s not about the keeping of it, it’s about the feeling in the moment.
FLIP YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
Ah – duality. It is both the bain of human existence and the gift! Everything in life has an opposite – a positive and a negative – like a magnet. Since we’ve already said that you can choose your attitude – your perspective – you can also choose to experience the alternative to what you are experiencing now. Here’s how – turn the opposite into a question!
Imagine that you are feeling or thinking “I hate writing a sales letter,” you can turn that into, “How can I write effective sales letters that are resonate with my value system?” When you do this, your brain and the universe immediately go to work on this question! It can become fun and interesting, rather than difficult and uncomfortable.
(By the way, did you notice that there’s not single right answer to the question you are exploring? There are lots of answers to all of our questions in business, and when we define them in this way, we gain power.)
How profoundly simple! It’s been scientifically studied extensively, and everything points to that fact that we don’t just smile because we are happy – we become happier when we smile. Of course, we don’t have to go to science for this one –
“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes
your smile can be the source of your joy.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
Smile, and you’ll keep finding more to smile about!
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